We Heal Men.
We Expose the Elephant in the Family.
SOAR helps men break the cycles of harm they were born into — including the hidden wound of mother–son trauma — and guides them toward recovery, accountability, and peace.
The world only sees the crime.
We focus on the human being, the history, and the wound, because that’s where real prevention begins.
A lived-experience project led by Joe Nehls. No shame. No excuses. Just the truth and the work.
What Is SOAR?
Where the Conversation Finally Gets Honest
SOAR (Sex Offenders for Accountability and Recovery) is a lived-experience-led project created by Joe Nehls, a survivor of severe childhood trauma and a man who has spent more than fifteen years rebuilding his life through recovery, accountability, and daily spiritual practice.
SOAR exists for one reason:
To help men heal the wounds that made them dangerous—
especially the family wounds no one talks about.
We go to the beginning:
- The mother–son bond that becomes a trap
- The jealousy, the enmeshment, the emotional parentification
- The secrecy that rewrites a boy’s identity
- The guilt and shame that turn inward and then outward
We don’t excuse harm. We don’t minimize it.
We simply refuse to pretend the origin isn’t there.
When men name the wound, they stop repeating it.
That’s SOAR.
What We Do
1. Healing Men Through Accountability & Recovery
SOAR works directly with men on the registry and men rebuilding their lives after harm.
This is not therapy. It is not legal advice. This is real-world accountability work, led by someone who’s lived it.
Men learn how to:
- Understand the trauma that shaped their thinking
- Face the harm they caused without collapsing into shame
- Build realistic, effective safety and risk-reduction plans
- Strengthen emotional, spiritual, and behavioral stability
- Prepare for evaluations, hearings, and life on the outside
This is the work most men never get access to.
SOAR brings it to the table plainly, honestly, and with zero sugarcoating.
2. Tools, Workbooks & Recovery Guides
SOAR creates practical, grounded tools that help men understand themselves and measure change:
- What Now? — A survival guide for men ready to stop lying to themselves
- Steps Across Faith — The 12 Steps expressed through five major faith traditions
- Rule 62 — The 12 Steps in 4 Hours — A breakthrough workshop model
- Risk-Reduction Worksheets for real behavior change
- Boundary & Identity Workbooks (in development)
- Guardian-Style Parenting Tools, helping men break intergenerational trauma
These tools are simple, powerful, and built from lived experience, not theory.
3. MotherMade — Naming the Hidden Root
MotherMade is SOAR’s deep-dive project into the most taboo subject in trauma and offender work:
Mother–son incest, enmeshment, and invisible boundary collapse.
For many men, this wound is the silent engine behind later acting out.
MotherMade exists to:
- Tell the truth about emotional and physical incest
- Give language to experiences men have held in silence their entire lives
- Show how unresolved maternal trauma shapes adult behavior
- Offer pathways toward grief work, individuation, and healing
- Advocate for research where none currently exists
This is the wound no one names.
MotherMade names it.